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  • Why I Set Personal Deadlines

    We all understand the importance of setting deadlines at work. Everything revolves around intentionally set deadlines and there are consequences if they aren’t met. Deadlines are a useful tool at work to keep progress moving forward. If there were no deadlines and no consequences for missing them, how many projects would realistically get done?

    Apply the same thinking above to your personal life: If you don’t intentionally work at improving yourself, how can you expect that improvement to happen?

    PDPs

    At Praxis, our favorite self-improvement tool is the PDP: A self-chosen 30-day challenge with tangible benchmarks and outcomes. The best PDPs involve doing something tangible every single day for 30 days. These daily deadlines, if taken seriously, produce results.

    Here are my PDPs so far for this year:

    • January: Circadian rhythm fasting. Fast for 13–16 hours starting after dinner each day. Try to have dinner as close to sundown as possible. 
      Outcomes: Lost 7lbs, Easier to wake up early.
    • February: Continue fasting and complete a Whole 30 — eating only real fruits, veggies, and meats for 30 days straight. No sugar, dairy, grains, additives, or desserts. 
      Outcomes: Lost 9lbs more, down a jean size, more energy.
    • March: Read for at least an hour every day. 
      Outcomes: Finished one new book each week.
    • April: Writing a valuable blog post every single day, either on cooklikechuck.com, cagrimmett.com, Medium, or the Praxis blog. 
      Outcomes: 26 new blog posts and counting, higher website traffic.
    • May (planned): Build and launch LeonardRead.org. Do one thing each day to digitize, OCR, edit, publish, and market Leonard E. Read’s journals and writings.

    You don’t necessarily commit to doing something every day for 30 days. I like doing it because it leaves no room for excuses. That said, it isn’t for everyone. Some people work better with weekly goals so they can dedicate their weekends to it. Others like to dedicate one morning or evening each week to self-improvement projects.

    No matter which path you choose, remember these two keys to self-improvement:

    1. Challenge yourself. Push the limits of your abilities and force yourself to learn.
    2. The deadlines need to be clearly defined, not nebulous.
    3. Never let yourself skip. Sometimes this is brutal. Yesterday this meant I worked from 8am to midnight with a break for dinner. Saying, “I don’t have time” actually means, “It isn’t a priority for me.” If you don’t give yourself room to use that excuse, you won’t make it.

    On Missing a Deadline

    Like any good manager, don’t fire yourself when you miss a deadline. Make sure you are falling forward, identifying why you missed the deadline, and put systems in place to make sure it doesn’t happen again.

    No Room for Flexibility

    Consider this quote on goal setting from HBR:

    Maybe you are the sort of person who finds it hard to motivate yourself to take on such goals. If that’s the case, taking a flexible approach might be best for you.

    I don’t think that flexible goals are good for anyone. They signal that:

    • You don’t take your goals seriously enough to put systems in place to overcome your fear and follow through on them.
    • You are unwilling to commit.

    We are capable of more than we give ourselves credit for. Set rigid goals and give yourself the chance to rise to meet them. That is what growth is about.

    We don’t get ahead by being easy on ourselves. We don’t get ahead by going through the motions. We get ahead by intentionally working on things that improve our skills and abilities.

    Set clearly defined personal deadlines and hold yourself accountable for meeting them.

  • The Afternoon Check-in

    On January 5, I started using Exist.io to rate each day from 1–5 and jot down a few notes about the day. The scale is pretty simple:

    • 1: Terrible
    • 2: Bad
    • 3: Okay
    • 4: Good
    • 5: Perfect

    At the end of the month I looked back at the data I collected and I was a little bummed to see that there were so many 2 (brownish) and 3 (yellowish android green) days.

    My Exist.io mood dashboard for January 2017. Brown is 2, yellowish green is 3, light green is 4, darker green is 5.

    I’ve always heard that your mood depends a lot on how you choose to interpret and react to situations. This means that we have a profound influence over moods, so I decided to take action and see how I can improve my mood ratings.

    Starting February 1, I took a moment to pause each afternoon and ask myself two questions:

    1. What is today’s mood rating so far?

    2. What can I do to increase or maintain that rating?

    Any time I found myself saying that today would be a 2 or a 3, I resolved to do whatever I could for the rest of the day to increase that rating to a 3 or a 4. If I thought today was a 4 or a 5, I resolved to spend the rest of the day doing things that would maintain that rating.

    Data scientists typically don’t like it when active viewers influence the outcome of their collected data, but this isn’t science. The goal here is to be happier, so intentionally influencing your mood data for the better is a good thing.

    The Results

    Over the next two and a half months, these two questions have eliminated the #2 (bad) days, decreased the #3 (okay) days, and increased the #4 (good) and #5 (perfect) days.

    Mood data from Exist.io. Yellowish green is 3, light green is 4, darker green is 5.

    Yes, there are still 3s on this chart. February in particular was a frustrating month. But every single one of those 3s were brought up from a would-be 2 that I intercepted with my mid-afternoon check-ins. This made February so much better than it would have been.

    How you can implement an Afternoon Check-in

    1. Subscribe to Exist.io or use your current favorite journaling/tracking system to rate you mood from 1–5 every day. You can even use a calendar for this. Something with the ability to see the overall trend is helpful.
    2. Set a reminder on your phone or a calendar alert for 3:30pm every day. When it goes off, as yourself these questions: What is today’s mood rating so far? and What can I do to increase or maintain that rating?
    3. When you encounter anything lower than a 4, write down three things you can do to improve that rating by the time you go to bed. When you encounter a 4 or 5, write down three things you can do to maintain that rating by the time you go to bed. The goal is to make a bad day better or to continue having a good day.
    4. Right before you go to bed, write down the final rating for the day and write down a few notes about the day.
    5. Review your ratings once every two weeks. If you aren’t seeing an overall mood improvement, it might be time to reassess and take a look at the underlying causes of stress, anxiety, and frustration in your life. Then make removing those things the focus of your afternoon check-in.

    Remember that you are in the driver’s seat of your own mood, not the passenger’s seat. Take the wheel.